It’s not a matter of caring about what people think…
People tend to not believe me when I say that I don’t care what people think of me, or what people think about me. The two are similar yes, but also different. People tend to say “you may not care what people think about what you say, or what they say they think of you, but you do care about what they think about you.” That isn’t the case at all and although putting it into words makes no sense I’ll elaborate.
When I do things, or say things, I say them because I want to. I don’t go out of my way to consider “well if I say this, these people may not like me as much! They might think I’m weird!” because altering your thoughts and feelings to please those around you will only make you feel the opposite. This stems into how I see most things in life.
If you spend your time worrying about what will or will not happen when you do something, or say something will you ever really let yourself enjoy the benefits of being able to speak and do? That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t consider obviously dangerous consequences to certain actions. I won’t say the cliche and overly used “you only have one life, so live it to the fullest” because it doesn’t matter how many lives you have. You could be a self conscious fool in all 10000 lives if you had them.
On the topic of being self conscious…along with saying and doing is impressions. “Oh but you care about what people think of what you wear or how you dress.” No. You wear whatever the fuck you want. Who are people to tell you what you can and cannot wear, and who are YOU to let them? So you have a pair of plaid pants you love but never wear them in public because you fear what people will think of them. Who cares what people think of them? Will you ever see those people again? No. The things I do, and how I dress, and how I feel when I wear things and wanting to lose weight and look better and feel better and look nicer and dress more femininely to others seems like an attempt to impress those around me. Well that’s what you think because you see it daily. This doesn’t imply I care what others think.
As humans, especially in our current society we are made to feel like there is always a standard we will never reach. But who really sets that standard? The coke-hungry stars of Hollywood? The big money advertising agents that feed off of our naive minds and our dirty dollars when we give into buying their products? Yes. But we can’t stop watching, or buying, because their products have become part of our daily lives. That doesn’t mean you can’t set your own standard.
If I want to change how I look, if I want to lose weight, or wear more dresses, or wear more or less make up, who’s to say I can’t and who’s to say I’m doing it for someone other than me? I only care about what I think of me and you should too. Do what makes you think well of you. If you look into the mirror and can do nothing but criticize yourself, make a change. Change so that when you look at yourself you can tell yourself how much you love how you look. If you hate hearing yourself speak or seeing things your write because they make you feel bad, change it. Aim to please you because no one will ever be able to make you feel better than you can.
It isn’t a matter of caring about what people think of and about you, it’s a matter of making yourself love to be you. Stop caring about what people think of you and think only for yourself. When you are happy with you, it will show, and people’s thoughts will change but they still won’t matter.
